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#5 Nathan is no Satan

So looking at Capt. Sobel from “Band of Brothers” (and admitting that his the character I identify most with), is he all that bad? Capt. Sobel has his own blind spots, he’s good at something, good at training people, making them give the best they got, preparing them for the real hell at the battlefield. He is making the best company in the army. But he suck at warfare.

And he doesn’t even see it. He got himself a very big blind spot and  no one is telling him about it. Being to proud, blind (or to stupid) he ends up i a parachute training school for doctors and priests just before the battle begins. And maybe that’s the lesson to learn, I got blind spots, things I suck at, behavior that’s wrong. But if someone told me about it, and I wasn’t to proud to listen (that’s actually the hardest job), I could repent, I could chance what I do or I could resign.

It reminds me about the story about David and Bathsheba from the bible (2.samuel 11-12). David had an affair with Bathsheba, in his feeling of being invincible he get’s her husband killed so he wont tell and marriage the girl (who now is pregnant).Then Nathan show up, and with a story he tell the king, that he has sinned. David had got him self a blind spot, Nathan is no Satan, he tells the king and the king repents. Nathan is a real friend, many people at the castle must have seen, generals and advisers must have been talking in the corners. But Nathan is the one true friend at the palace.

I’m quite sure God put my wife as Nathan in my life. She points things out to me in a very direct way, and I get angry, frustrated or go silent into my mancave – until I realise that she is right. Well, she doesn’t always deliver the message with the same wisdom as Nathan did, but then again, Nathan probably prayed for his encounter several days, if my wife should do that, she would pray al day long :-).

So how could Capt. Sobel become better? By listening to what wise people, that loves him, tells him about his blind spots (sadly, no one seems to love him). Man, I would love to be better doing that. Listen, not getting angry, not complaining, listen! Cause I don’t want to be Capt. Sobel. I want to be Lt. Winters.

So, who is Nathan in your life, and do you remember to tressure that person and the insight you’re being told about your blind spots?

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    #4 Three things I want to accomplish this year

    Call it new years resolutions, call it goals. The thing is, I hate it! I hate it because I sincerely doubt my own character and strength to go through it! So that’s why I go easy on this one. If I should state 3 things I want to accomplish this year, it would be:

      • Read 12 books
      • Romance my wife 26 times
      • Write 52 blog post

      Read 12 books

      Well, everyone seems to go for like 212, 100, 52, some number matching the year we’re in, the magic 100 or the amount of weeks on a year. I go for the amount of months, with 2 small children, lots of work and a wife, who’s love language is “time together” – I think, I just might reach this one.

      Romance my wife 26 times

      Some might say, I should romance my wife every day. I believe that’s for armatures to do so. First, you’ll burn out, life is not a Hollywood movie, it’s for real! Real kids that’s alive, real job that takes time, real bodies that needs sleep and food – so I can’t do romance all the time. Secondly, if you use perfume every day, people around will not notice, use it at special occasions, they’ll think you smell awesome. Same with romance, have a daily loving relation, and then set time apart for romance her. Then she’ll notice and appreciate it. So 26 times – you got it, every 14th day.

      Write 52 blog posts

      To be honest, I can’t write every day. I find writing hard, I want to, I’ll train, but for now I’m a learner. It might come out with more, but I won’t break my neck on this one. In extend of that, english is not my first language. I’ll go for reading my books and bible in english this year, go for writing my post in english – and then I expect to improve my language.

      So, that’s my 3 new years resolutions! Looking forward to look back on 2021, and have done this.

       
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      Posted by on 01/07/2012 in Random

       

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      #3 No one wants to be Captain Sobel

      Three miles up, three miles down! Currahee! – Capt. Sobel, Band of Brother

      In the first episode of Band of Brothers, Capt. Sobel is the hard and endless yelling captain, that put’s his men into a training programme making them the finest company in the airborne army. He is hated by his men, but is shaping them into the finest warriors. Right until we reach military tactic training, then the men realise that their captain will lead them into the certain death.

      No one wants to be Capt. Sobel! Every man wants to be Lt. Winters, the man who is firm in his principles and virtues, who’s not stealing, lying or swearing, who never retreats or show weakness when he is between a rock and a hard place (at least in this first episode), who’s silent when it’s wise, but taking the court-martial when it’s necessary to protect the values he belive in. Yes, everyone  wants to be Lt. Winters.

      But to be honest, I often feel like I’m Capt. Sobel! I find myself saying the right things, telling my pupils what to do and when to do is, because they will benefit from it later in life. Pretend to be mad at them for breaking the rules, not going to bed at night and so on. And yet, when it comes to real life combat, setting goals, reach them, not follow into what all men do, but doing whats right, I’m a failure and I don’t think anyone wants to follow me. I’m no Lt. Winters, not at all, but I’ll start praying and training to become more like him. That sounds like a good new year resolution.

       
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      Posted by on 01/06/2012 in Movies

       

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      #2 It’s what had to be done.

      So the other day, I had my kids for the library and then home to sleep, my wife is out spending money in the post-christmas-sale and I, I had some time for my self. Enjoying my christmas present “Band of Brothers” in a nice thinbox wrapping. Sitting with my coffee and some leftover christmas chocolate, I’ve watched the first episode “Currahee”. And it stunned me, not the training, not the plot of the episode, but these old men in the beginning of the episode, telling about their situation, their nation at war, their options as young men. One quote stroke me.

      I did things. I didn’t do them for medals or accolades. I did them because they… It’s what had to be done.

      Something just has to be done – not for fame, not for glory or a public solute. What would I do in that kind of situation, what kind of excuses would I come up with? I have children. I’m to old. I’ve done my part paying through the taxes. It does sound lame, right?

      But still, that’s the kind of excuses I come up with, not that my country is in war and need me. But I come up with excuses for not doing the things, that I know is right to do or urgent to be done by somebody. If there is no reward in it for me, no glory, my motivations is equal zero.

      And here is a group of young men, risking their life for the sake of world peace, knowing they won’t get any rewards, fame og medals, some even committed suicide, because the army rejected them. That’s the kind of moral I want to have, standing up for what is right, risking my life for the course of greater good, not focusing on what’s in it for me – but doing things, because it’s what have to be done.

       
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      Posted by on 01/04/2012 in Movies

       

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      #1 A new blog has come to life

      First day in the year 2012, the year I’ll turn 30. I still feel somewhat undefined in my manhood – not at mess, just undefined. So I decided to take my journeynotes to the internet, to this little place of mine (thank you WordPress, for letting me have this). Maybe I hope to  find some kind of online brotherhood, some kind of feedback, guide, enlightening. Maybe I hope not being the only one searching for a definition of manhood ind the 21st century postmodern-mixed-up-world.

      Bye the way – my family gave me “Band of Brothers” for christmas present. I’m looking forward to revisit that tv-show, last time I saw it, was with a friend of mine, it took 2 nights and I remember the feeling of something heroic, but I don’t remember each episode. That will be one of my blog-quest, to write my thoughts about “Band of Brothers” and manhood.

       
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      Posted by on 01/01/2012 in Random

       

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